People shouldn't experience the act of love until they are in love.

What can I say? Eversince I've heard of limerence, I never stopped wanting to know more about it. It's so intriguing that I want to completely understand the logic behind it. Personally, I think Tennov has made a significant move to understanding why some relationships fail. And I guess, she's not alone at this. At a very young age, I have started understanding what could be the real meaning (feeling) of love. I don't believe that love can fade. Because love is ...

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Clearly, the study is being supported by this verse. People do mistake feelings for love without them realising it. My question is this..."how many romantic love can one have in his lifetime?" In my opinion, I don't believe that we could love different persons in the exact same level. There's only one true love in a person's lifetime. Other love feelings could just be limerence or whatever feelings one mistake for love.

when limerence wears off, some people fear they are falling out of love. In reality, love has just moved on to a new phase, and many people use limerence as a springboard for a long-term relationship. Arguably, we need this temporary madness, to convince us to set up home and intertwine our destinies with relative strangers.

So, limerence is not at all (can't) just (be) plainly a mistake of two overwhelmed individuals. It could be a stage. But it's all up to them to make love happen.

The first and most basic question in managing a relationship is simple: are both partners having the same kind? Mismatches in expectation about this cause a colossal amount of grief. That's especially so when one partner bids to change the mode of the relationship and the other doesn't follow. So the first rule of relationship management is this: know (and tell your partner) what mode you're in, know what mode your partner is in, and do your damnedest to make sure they match!

Hmmm...a pretty sensible and promising advice. But of course! Openess, I believe is the most important ingredient that makes a relationship successful. However, insisting what both the persons in a relationship want from each other won't cause anything good either. So, there's a need to add compromise. Respecting each other's wants and needs (sometimes opinion) could also help get the relationship to another stage. That is of course, if both are envisioning a future together.

If either of you are misrepresenting what you are giving and expecting (whether because of self-deception or deliberate other-deception) the relationship is a tragedy waiting to happen.

Assuming you and your partner can in fact agree on your goals and be honest about what you're doing, there are other issues. Some of these have to do with commitment -- for how far and into what kinds of futures do the partners bind themselves together?

So, getting into another stage also depends on decision. Can love be a decision? I think you can only start compromising when love is involved. No matter how two persons try harder to make the relationship work, but none of them or just one of them can completely commit to taking it to a higher level, then nothing positive could take place. That's why breaking up happens.

What can help to keep the "emotional juices flowing" in your relationship? The following information might be helpful:


- Touch each other a lot. Touch is one of the best ways of communicating your feelings to another. Touch, skin and body contact are an important part of the overall continuing relationship. *** Try touching your partner lightly with your fingertips. The ends of the fingers will communicate their own language to the person touched. This language will be a personal conversation between the two of you.

- Surprise each other. Be each other's best friend. Make your partner understand that your relationship doesn't just revolve around sexual activities but it actually goes beyond that. Keeping an open-communication can help.

- Swap your interest. Don't stop learning new things about your partner. Treat your partner as if a mystery yet to be unfold. Surely, there's still a lot of fascinating things to discover about each other.

- Develop shared habits. Find out what you have in common and make it your habit to enjoy the things that both of you love doing. Pick a day in a week where you can spend quality time together doing what you agreed to do.

- Give each other space. Always remember that each partner still needs room to be an individual. The individual that he was before you even met him and the individual he still can become.

- Communicate. Again, being open and honest will always lead to more understanding and acceptance of each other's differences.