What Oprah says about MEN

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck, NO. You can't be friends. A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.Don't stay because you think "it will get better". You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are no better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who've got bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maitain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you speak up.

Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man's behaviour. Change comes from within.

Don't ever make him feel he is more important than you are. Even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated WITH you, he'll cheat ON you.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be doing all the bending...compromise is two way street.

You need time to heal between relationships, there is nothing cute about baggae. Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

You should never look for someone to complete you. A relationship consists of two whole individuals. Look for someone complimentary not supplementary.

Dating is fun even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you sometimes. When a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him--he takes it for granted.

Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Words just make it worse, they're misunderstood.

"I know we're all pretty small in the big scheme of things, and I suppose the most you can hope for is to make some kind of difference, but what kind of difference have I made, what in the world is better because of me?"

I felt bad that there's this person accusing me of making another person's life (hers) miserable. Like, duh?! Am I that powerful to cause someone such misery? Ridiculous! It's been days since this incident happened. Someone posed as another person and threatened me. Told me things that I consider the silliest ever told to me. I could roll in laughter (Not to mention the very poor grammar). At least, now I can really roll in laughter because during that time when we were exchanging messages, I was raised hell. Seriously. My hands were shaking in anger, I hardly could type. Maybe, I shouldn't have responded. I could've just ignored her. I tried to send her warnings. "Stop it, I know you". She wouldn't stop. I don't know, but I couldn't just let her get away with it. Something, someone has to halt her. There's something that told me, you better not let her get away with her irrationality. But it was all pointless. She wouldn't listen to reasons. She knows only her own. Like, come on! She doesn't know better. Damn, how I wish she'll realise that, for goodness sakes! Oh, well. You can't really please everyone.

I believe she has superiority complex. Poor her. Well, if it's what's making her happy...

(The adjectives in BOLD directly describes her)

Superiority Complex refers to a subconscious neurotic mechanism of compensation developed by the individual as a result of feelings of inferiority. The term was coined by Alfred Adler (February 7, 1870 – May 28, 1937), as part of his School of Individual Psychology.

Those exhibiting the superiority complex commonly project their feelings onto others they perceive as inferior to themselves. Accusations of arrogance and cockiness are often made by others when referring to the individual exhibiting the superiority complex.

Behaviors related to this mechanism may include an exaggeratedly positive opinion of one’s worth and abilities, unrealistically high expectations in goals and achievements for oneself and others, vanity, extravagant style in dressing (with intention of drawing attention), pride, sentimentalism and affected exaltation, snobbism, a tendency to discredit other’s opinions, forcefulness aimed at dominating those considered as weaker or less important, credulity, and others.

Social aloofness, daydreaming, isolation could also be associated to the Superiority Complex, as a way to evade the fear of failure related to the feelings of inadequacy to face real world.

- Wikipedia