"...if any hear MY voice and open the door,I will come into their house and eat with them,and they will eat with ME."~ Jesus[Revelation 3:20]
When we open our hearts to Jesus and choose to be in a relationship with Him, it does not mean we are getting ourselves into a system which will require our hard work, nor will we be graded for our performance. We are not expected to blindly obey rules and keep a running tally of our deeds--that if we fail, HE will not anymore want us. The verse above does NOT say, "Jesus will come to our homes, pound on the door and demand we let Him in, and once inside, start demanding we do this and that...OR else....." Jesus comes to us in friendship. He offers UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. The love He offers is not the same as what the world offers ― a love of convenience ...loving only IF it serves "me".
What Jesus offers is simply to get to know Him deeper and be in a relationship with Him. When we begin to learn about Him and His ways...when we understand His cause and when we experience the LOVE He has for us it will enable us to become like Him and will make us desire what He desires for us as we continue abiding in Him. Our very experience with Him is what will transform us to become better versions of ourselves. It is as simple and as complicated (for a human mind to fathom) like that.
So if what hinders you from receiving God's invitation of relationship with Him is FEAR, know that He requires nothing from you except the whole of you. Come to Him as you are. You do not need to change yourself to be qualified. God clearly says in His Word...
"I will put a new spirit in you to change your way of thinking. I will take out the heart of stone from your body and give you a tender, human heart. I will put my Spirit inside you and change you so that you will obey My laws. You will carefully obey My commands." [Ezekiel 36:26]
Notice it is all "His work". He did not say, "You should do this and that and then we will be ok." He clearly said, "I will change you and you will be changed." All we need is to receive the invitation and trust that God already qualified us through His Son, Jesus. Nothing to fear, we only need to TRUST His Word. ^_^ And then, the commandment to love Him and His people will eventually become automatic to us.
Most of us are tired of loving because it seems we always have to keep giving...keep putting our best foot forward or we lose those we love. That when our human tendency fails to satisfy their needs, it's over. But, here is a LOVE which has a promise of permanence. Receive this unconditional LOVE, today. ^_^